Week 12 after gender confirmation surgery and it’s uncomfortable. I’ve made it to the size 6 inch dilator soft from soul source but it’s uncomfortable and painful at the entrance and then once about half way in. I have small pink discharge. What do you do to make it easier. I figured by week 10 this would be a breeze especially since I’ve been doing it everyday now for like 8 weeks!
i think months 3-4 were the hardest. i'm at 8 months now, and it doesn't hurt at all, nor is it uncomfortable at all. it's just a chore that i have to do
I didn’t expect 8 months. Dummy me for thinking by week 10 it’d be easier. I realize it’s a large surgery but every surgery I’ve had by like week 6 it’s nothing. GCS isn’t for the faint of heart. Thanks for the support babes
In my initial consultation packet my surgeon recommended buying a specific type of vibrator (le reve slimline g pink - not the regular slimline) as an option for dilating with and i'm so glad I did bc it's been a godsend. It's shaped almost exactly like the soul source dilators so I can use it in place of them on occasion, but what's been really helpful for me is using it as a warmup. I stick the vibrator in for about a minute or so and it relaxes the muscles enough that I can take it out and easily slide in the green dilator, which was previously too painful to insert.
I think the specific model has been discontinued so it's not on amazon anymore but some sex shop sites still have leftover stock for the time being. If you aren't able to get that exact one, any type of vibrator that goes inside might be helpful for warming up
Thanks. I think I’m trying this!
I'm at about 13 or so months and it's starting to get a lot easier now. I had a complication that I got fixed around nine months that I had to pause dilating for though so I lost some progress then that I had to make up later, so it may get easier much sooner for you if you aren't having to deal with something like that.
Edit to add: I wrote up dilation advice around two months post-op that you might find helpful: https://www.reddit.com/r/Transgender_Surgeries/comments/stb2xd/two_months_postop_penile_preservation_vaginoplasty/
Definitely checking out your recommendations. Thanks doll
You're welcome!
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