I do hope for you that you're able to orgasm again...

I'm scheduled for my GCS, and when I asked about orgasms he told me that some are able to after just a few weeks, but for others it can be a year or longer. When I'm cleared to he recommends I get myself a vibrator to stimulate my clitoris and get things working again...

Thank you for posting - I hope that this, and posts from others with problems or disappointments prepare me properly for my gender reassignment surgery and that I'm going into it with my eyes wide open.

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I feel your pain 😞

People say it gets better after a year and at 16 months I'm feeling just meh.

People also say it can take well over a year to be able to climax. I'm hoping this is true and we can both manage it in the future.

You are not alone, others feel similar things to you. All I can do is send you good vibes and wish you luck. Feel free to DM me if you want to chat x

I feel you. I had my SRS 5 months ago and my depth is ridiculous... barely reaching 7,5 cm when I try really hard. I haven't had orgasm yet although thanks to vibrators, my sensitivity is improving and it becomes enjoyable but still not an orgasm. I often feel like I will never get any better than that. And the fact that the aesthetical result is unacceptable, makes it evem harder.

Nevertheless, I don't regret it. Even though it doesn't work well and doesn't look good, it calms my dysphoria quite a lot.

I keep my fingers crossed for you to get the big O soon!

Your experience and others like it shows the importance of choosing the right surgeon. Complications can be very difficult to deal with and it’s critical to reduce the chance of them happening, and to have good care in the event they do.

I feel you on the depth issue. Dilating is a chore for sure. My depth is questionable. Im just too tight for penetration. As for orgasm, my nerves started to wake up around the 9 month mark. Be patient with yourself. I can orgasm now and it’s great.

It took me a year before I could orgasm and about 18 months before I was really happy, give it time

Hugs.

I’m sorry to hear about your struggles. I have depth and am functional, but I feel really ugly right now. It’s definitely not all happy.

Are you on antidepressants or Finasteride? They can both cause sexual dysfunction.

I see you saying you miss a functional penis, but do you think maybe what you’d really rather is a functional vagina? Totally understandable.

> I had SRS 9 months ago

I understand your feelings, but please have some perspective. You're still healing. Your nerves are reconnecting and literally rewiring how your brain understands your new body parts, and your new hormone levels.

This is major surgery that is both physical and psychological in nature. Your doctor should have gone through this all with you, it's not uncommon to feel this way for a year, sometimes longer as everything sorts itself out. 9 months is a long time - but not in terms of GRS recovery.

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The first year is rough. There's no way to sugarcoat it. It's important to take time for yourself, reflect on this - but understand this is temporarily.

The years afterwards are MUCH better. I know it's difficult to hear - or to wait through, but you have to have patience.

You have decades in front of you.

This is a speed bump. It sucks for now but you will figure your way out and then look back at this as being a minor annoyance but worthwhile.

Thank you for your honesty. <3

I wouldn't give up too quick. Assuming you didn't suffer massive nerve damage and still have sensation, then you may need to experiment more. Digital stimulation isn't enough for many women. I haven't even had srs yet and need a vibe.

I'm so sorry. I can't personally relate but I have trans friend and she got PPT and lost depth and now is looking for a colon vaginoplasty. I think we need better SRS doctors and more research in this medical field.

For what’s it’s worth, I have great depth but it doesn’t make much difference, I can’t orgasm through sex, only when I’m alone and able to concentrate. I’m four years in and it’s definitely an evolution.

I understand to some extent. Ppl should let you say how you feel. It took multiple surgeries to get a semi functional results and now I can only have sex with fingers or smaller penis. I’m looking into another one and it’s really tiring when you’re trying to get FFS and other surgeries and just live your life. I will say I am able to orgasm so for the most part I’m still sexually satisfied. Had I not been able to? I think I’d regret the surgery too.

It took me 8 months to have an organism. Then it took a while for it to get good. I know many girls that took a year. I know it's hard, but be patient, it takes time to heal and learn about your new parts.

For depth, you can consider a revision at some point.

I feel you with loss of depth. At the 7 months mark I only had 3.5 cm of depth and was on the second smallest dilator. Had surgery last week to get it back up to 5 cm. I've been crying a lot they week because of the lack of depth and width. It almost feels like dilation is just pointless at this point. Dilation still hurts like hell every day.

Wish you well gaining the aesthetic result functionality you desire. You’ve got me thinking that I really need to evaluate what the various outcomes of surgery could be and do some “what if” scenarios as part of the decision making process to proceed. I tend to idealise the surgical outcome as a sure thing where in reality it might well be different.

Can relate with alot feedback here although can't say that regret anything. I've had alot same complications. Taking it one day at time.

I understand you're feeling. I've had my regrets. It's not really because I don't have depth. I have good results as far as to please a man. I don't have very good results in terms of being able to orgasm. I just accepted it as a risk consequence.

this is one of my hesitations about GCS. I already have a hardish time orgasming on HRT (though not at all impossible) and I have 0 experience pleasing a pussy. I worry that it would be hard on my relationship if my bf wasn’t able to make me cum for 9-16 months or whatever. I do enjoy being able to have multiple orgasms in a row tho. that part of HRT is great. im almost debating having my surgeon leave more penis so my clit has a better chance of retaining nerves. I also like that my surgeon retains foreskin which helps a lot in stimulation (and keeping the glans healthy and sensitive)

If you have ppv with doctor kamol be sure that alot of girls they have the same problem, this technique is a shit ,i send you private message if we can talk

Who was the surgeon?

I'll trade you my P for your V...

If I find I can't orgasm, I'll just try, try again until I get it figured out...

But in all sincerity, I do hope you 'learn' to make it all work. I'm sooooooooooo envious!

Where did u have your surgery?

I feel you and I am sorry about what happened to you. I read you did SRS with Dr. Kamol?

If so, wait at least 18-24 months for a complete healing and after that, I would definitely advice a complete revision with Dr. Burin. He is also specialized in revision surgery, depending on the case of course.

How do you lose you depth though? It's not just lost. Its lost because of failure to maintain dilation? Or do i thought

I haven't managed to orgasm after mine either but I'm only 3 months or so.