6-weeks post-op full depth vaginoplasty

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u/Legal-Ad4972
Mon Jan 22 22:18:40 2024 UTC
(16 comments)

I just had my 6-week post visit today. They measured my vaginal depth at 8cm. During surgery they were able to give me 14cm which we never saw. The first time I dilated the physical therapist struggled to get the dilator to the first dot. I’ve been vigorously dilating more than 20 minutes 3-times a day. I’m at 8cm. I would say I am fucked but that’s not possible with 8cm. This has been a really difficult experience and it’s just crushing to be at 8cm. It sucks to be the random surgery that doesn’t work out. I basically got a really deep zero-depth surgery.

What do I do with 8cm? What are your thoughts? I’m still so numb. My surgery feels like a failure. But keep on healing and wait and see what happens. It’s only possible to lose depth from this point. Rough day.

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u/AutumnGlow33
Mon Jan 22 22:32:49 2024 UTC
(6 children)

“More than 20 minutes?” My sessions were more than 30-45 and I had colon vaginoplasty. It’s possible you’re just not giving yourself enough time to relax. It can really, really be time consuming at first.

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OP
Mon Jan 22 22:37:57 2024 UTC
(4 children)

I was measured by the PT , NP, and Surgeon the first time I dilated to be at the first dot. 20 minutes is after full depth is achieved.

2
Mon Jan 22 22:43:41 2024 UTC
(3 children)

Thanks for clearing that up. I can’t imagine why you never saw the full depth they gave you during surgery. I hope things work out, definitely check with your surgeon and another pelvic floor therapist maybe. There are definitely revision options out there.

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OP
Mon Jan 22 22:55:44 2024 UTC
(2 children)

It’s been measured many times by many people and I can feel where it’s at dilating. It’s 8cm. It’s crushing to think of another surgery because this one has been so difficult. It’s destroyed my mental health. 8cm is a failure right?

6
Mon Jan 22 23:05:09 2024 UTC
(1 child)

your feelings and concerns about your depth and being able to accommodate an average size penis is valid but your surgery wasn’t a failure! it’s another step towards alignment of your body and brain. this is you embarking a new journey reclaiming your body and identity. you will experience euphoria everytime you put on a pair of panties or yoga pants or when you wear bikini in the summer. there are many ways you can enjoy sex and orgasm that is not straight up intercourse.

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OP
Mon Jan 22 23:07:42 2024 UTC
(0 children)

For sure. We will eliminate penetration now. Feeling in the area and nerve connecting still isn’t a guarantee either. There is still the possibility of being numb and losing sensation permanently in the area. I had a horrible relationship with sex before and thought maybe I could be someone that has a happy-fulfilling normal sex life. It’s depressing to spend multiple hours a day dilating to keep my 8cm.

1
Sat Jan 27 20:56:32 2024 UTC
(0 children)

Are you happy with colon ?

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u/Clean-Bird3449
Tue Jan 23 00:39:09 2024 UTC
(0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that 😔 🫂 It's something that can be fixed with a revision so don't lose hope. In the meantime your responsibility is to make sure everything else heals.

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u/Swim-Lane
Tue Jan 23 01:12:11 2024 UTC
(1 child)

Dilate, dilate, dilate after inversion surgery. At least 60 minutes a day is essential in the weeks after surgery. Crushingly boring, I watched TV soaps and quiz shows.

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OP
Tue Jan 23 01:22:49 2024 UTC
(0 children)

I’ve dilated for at least 60 minutes at full-depth every day since I started dilating. It sucks but I’ve stuck to it. All that dilation time is time for me to stare at and think about the depth that I don’t have.

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u/ThatArmi
Tue Jan 23 09:56:16 2024 UTC
(1 child)

Girl, the average depth of a vagina is 5-13 cm, I haven't started HRT yet or came out as trans so I know jack shit, but I'm pretty sure 8cm is actually pretty good and totally serviceable for sex. With the average pp being around 14cm, I think you're more than well off.

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OP
Tue Jan 23 13:58:47 2024 UTC
(0 children)

A cis-vagina elongates during arousal. A neovagina does not. I can’t accommodate my long finger. I can’t accommodate half of the average penis. 50% of penis’ are longer than the average penis.

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u/SayFord
Tue Jan 23 17:11:04 2024 UTC
(3 children)

girl… women who born without vaginas and get the Mcindoe technique (where they use skin from the tights to make the vagina) mostly get between 8 and 10 cm and not more… u can have a normal sex life with that, if i was you i would relax more and focus on the width more than the depth for sex

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OP
Tue Jan 23 17:16:40 2024 UTC
(2 children)

Width is fine. Haven’t had a problem with width. I’m disappointed that I am starting out with the ability to accommodate a maximum of 3”. I can only lose depth over time, I won’t gain depth over the years.

1
Wed Jan 24 14:39:53 2024 UTC
(1 child)

If you are doing your dilation as you should why would you lose more depth? always make sure u are pressuring the end of the canal though

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OP
Wed Jan 24 16:09:10 2024 UTC
(0 children)

Because I hopefully live 60 more years and life can get in the way