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surgery complications making me depressed
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thank you đź’–
Complications are the real deal but once they go away you'd be glad to have gotten SRS.
it’s so hard to have positive thoughts
You’re also in the time frame of post op depression in addition to the complications.
You’re still healing from a major surgery, and nutrients your brain needs are being diverted for healing. So while I’m not a 100% sure you have that, it’s possibly compounding your struggles.
You can get a revision, since you chose PI you have the possibility of ppt or the intestinal procedure.but your post indicates that you know this. You’ve got time to get better insurance and file appeals for any denials this insurance is failing you on. Plus there is the possibility of having your case reviewed for potential malpractice. (Don’t make threats though, you don’t want your records to get “lost” or get edited.)
Please don’t give up. This is a lot on you right now but like I said I have a suspicion you’re dealing with all this and post op depression too. But you can do this,
yeah post op depression is not a joke
I read somewhere before my surgery that every hour under anesthesia can lead to depression for a week.
I wasn’t out for more than 5 hours and it’s been 4 months and i’m still depressed
Ok. It was just a thought. I do hope you feel better soon. If I may ask, have you talked to a dr?
it’s just the circumstances cos with the catheter and fistula it’s just a lot to handle right now
Hang in there. I had an extremely rough start with massive hemorrhoids that needed surgery one week later. I can tell you it does get better.
i’m sorry you went through that. i still need an aesthetic revision and im not sure if i want depth anymore after what ive been through but being in the hole and knowing theres another surgery i have to get with its own complications just is so so much to handle
I totally get that. I still need a revision almost three years later since a flap was left over my vagina that makes dilating and sex painful. (It has to be pulled down.) I don’t blame my surgeon because there is only so much they can do with the swelling.
Once you’re ready for a revision I highly suggest you find a really reputable surgeon who can work with your insurance. I wish you the absolute best ❤️
This all sucks and I’m very sorry. I think it’s good to remember the people have complications and still end up ultimately at the very least happier than pre-op. I think you will be the same, but I know that doesn’t make right now much happier.
If I can ask, what is your support system irl like to help with all these? Do you have friends/family to help take the stress off or are you navigating it mostly alone?
Mother and my boyfriend/relationship is actually causing more emotional turmoil than ever right now. It’s a codependent relationship and I need him for my primary needs and that’s being threatened right now while i’m at my weakest state so it seriously puts the heat on me.
Oof ok yeah that’s not good, I’m sorry. Do you have any trans support centers at all around you?
I don’t even know what that is
Gotcha. I guess I meant like, is there an lgbt center in your town? Somewhere lgbt people in your area can go to if they need resources and such?
i’m not sure i mean i live in south florida nowhere near tampa orlando or miami i dont think lgbt concerns are important here to the locals. i’ll have to look into it
Totally understandable, I don’t want to presume you’re somewhere with a robust LGBT community. In that case maybe locally linked social media networks could be useful? What I’m basically trying to accomplish here is help you get yourself some supportive people in your life who aren’t your BF. People who can at least offer you someone to talk to irl and maybe some advice on where to go for help. Online places like this are great, but they are never a substitute for irl connections, which (correct me if I’m wrong), it sounds like you’re low on atm.
I did start talking to a girl i met on here who had her surgery a week before me and we’ve become good friends since that so maybe if i find a few more like that i’ll be good. just really feeling the pressure right now is all. thank you for the advice i appreciate you taking the time.
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I hope the day comes too. praying.
"It looks okay but the clitoris is huge and not tucked away behind a hood and looks exactly like the tip of a penis (i know that’s what it is)..."
I have the same issue. I got no idea why they thought it had to be that big, maybe to try and have more sensitivity? But mines too sensitive as it is. Revision for sure.
"...having the canal below the vulva is a oddity i didn’t expect."
This. This needs to be more common knowledge as I didn't expect this either and it was a major stress for me after I realised. Once again maybe a revision can fix this.
They make the clitoris large and prominent because it lowers the chance of necrosis and if you lose your clit in recovery you can’t get it back. They put the vagina below the vulva because of the internal organs and narrower pelvis us trans women have and hate. Everything the surgeon does is to preserve the existing tissue so if they have to sacrifice aesthetics they will. I definitely see a revision in my future with PPT method because PI depth is some bullsh*.
The whole community is here for you ❤️
I'm sorry there have been struggles with surgery and then you have all this added stress. It's not fair and it's scary. I cannot believe the surgeon didn't believe where you were peeing from until he saw it himself.
In his field he really can’t believe everything a patient claims without seeing it for himself. I understood why but it was no less frustrating.
Is there a chance you’re going through post-op depression? Not to invalidate your feelings, but what you have described isn’t the end of the world. You still have options in revisions. Between a vagina that is non functional and pretty and one that is functional and not exactly what I was expecting, I’d choose the latter. I know it’s tough on the mind, but just know it’s early, you have options, and you’ve gone a long way. Don’t give up now. I’d focus on healing, keeping open communication w your doctor, and maintaining your mental health. Everything else will work itself out. Rooting for you!
Yeah it could be that but I have other factors coming down on me too at this time and it only fuels this fire. I just want a break
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