He seemed very warm and caring at the outset but I needed to revise my view of him. 1. He refused to even look at my junk when planning the surgery. What on earth? How could he know if I didn't have some issues that wouldn't need fixing first? 2. He informed me no hair removal is needed so I assumed they cauterize or scrape. Wrong, they don't and he didn't care, I needed to do all research on my own. Once I confronted him about it he said "we'll care about it afterwards" and that "no patient of his complains about it". He meant just plucking it. What the fuck? 3. He pointed me to a dermatologist because he saw I was treating my health and the surgery very seriously. I went to them, they had no clue about neovaginas but told me that it was either electrolysis or shaving cream in my vagina. They also told me they never saw such amount of hair on a penis in their whole career. So I was right, the surgeon would have set me up for a life of bacterial infections, dysphoria and dispaurenia had I trusted him. 4. He had otherwise good reviews from a few girls I talked to so I just decided to take care of the hair myself the way people on here told me to, stopped laser, found an electrologist, organized a numbing cream with the help of a dermatologist I personally know (no good OTC available here) and started doing electrolysis, 1 full clearing per month. 5. After a few months of clearings I decided to contact the hospital he works to ask for a surgery date - just so that I would have something to look forward to in my train wreck of a life. I would have to push it back probably but I just find having something to wait for to be beneficial for my mental health. I was informed they had raised the costs by around 25% (up till 58k PLN, around 14k USD or 13.4k Euro) which was tough as my transphobic shithole of a country does not let you do anything with your health insurance and I have neither a good career nor a rich family. I tried argumenting that it wasn't my fault I had to push it back a year, he was supposed to contact me but he wouldn't, the hospital desk wouldn't listen when I told them NO I HAD NO CALLS FROM HIM. Then after a month I got a call in the morning as I was starting my shift and I couldn't pick it up. Then I just received a writing from the hospital's director that they won't treat me anymore (anymore? Did you do anything besides wasting my time, money and damaging my mental health?).
I hope this post finds its way to someone and saves them from what I had to go through. I'm already after two consultations with another surgeon, this time I was immediately told I need to do permanent hair removal and that he needs to see me in person in order to qualify me for surgery. What a difference, huh.
Thanks for reading.
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