MTF Post OP sex questions

Preface note: I( 21 F/ mtf)had a colon-vaginoplasty in November of 2016 at age 17 in USA, with a great doctor. I’m posting this on my throwaway because I simply live my life on a “ needs to know basis” and don’t want the whole internet to know my business. Thanks for understanding now onto the post...

As stated above, I (21 F/mtf) had colon-vaginoplasty in mid November 2016 at 17 in USA, and the initial surgery went well considering how insanely invasive/intense it was. I also had another operation in March of 2018 ( to fix a ring of scar tissue build up around the opening which caused both immense pain during sex/ inability to have PIV sex at all) I fully followed the dilation schedule and was able to have penetrative sex. This should go without saying, but the sex I was able to have definitely took lots of work between myself and then LDR bf(Cis 20 M) who had a slightly under average/ average penis size and by the time we had broken up ( just before technically ) I could fit him all the way in and he could easily finish in me. Cut to now 2020 I have had my now current BF(Cis 23M) and sex for us has also been work and isn’t just super easy as I feel sex is often shown to be /talked about in media /porn. Furthermore, I definitely have noticed this one persistant problem, my SO can’t fit all the way in my vagina, and while he is definitely the biggest in terms of penis size (if I had to guess it would be about 6-7 in with considerable girth- also he’s 6’1 and pretty muscular aka kinda a big guy) I didn’t think it would be so hard as the colon is very long and I have a lot of depth. Additionally, it’s super disheartening and causes me a lot of dysphoria when I feel like I’m somehow lesser than or not a real woman bc my BF can’t fit all the ways in and finish in me. I would like to clarify that while I’m acutely aware of the these negative feelings being my problem/ responsibility to resolve via therapy (which I currently am doing), it still totally sucks as it can ruin the moment. Additionally, I would like to note some sexual and physical medical history before I ask my final question: - I’m also 5’8 and very skinny like my weight range is about 115-120( never really above ) and while I have some curves( thanks to hormones) I think I may have narrow hips which could be a potentially complicating factor in this issue

• I had build up of the colon mucus surgically removed both in may 2017 and recently in August 2020 both minor operations went well

• I have since been advised to use a catheter to douche/ clean my vagina deeply once a month to avoid having to have the minor surgery to remove the mucus build up so much.

• my boyfriend is sometimes able to get considerably far maybe half way ( it feels like more on my end but we both are totally sure since we aren’t fully attentive to this detail while we have sex) , and he has been able to finish in me just once, but then never again sadly.

Therefore, I guess my question(s) are the following: 1. Have any of you who have had the colon-vaginoplasty experienced the inability to have penetrative sex due to colon mucus build up, if so any solutions ?

1. Have any of you who have had SRS/ colon-vaginoplasty ever experienced difficulty having your Cis male partner/Husband/ boyfriend fit all the way in your vagina?

2. My BF also claims that while he can sometimes get pretty far depth wise he states that it starts to get tight/raw ( on sides of his dick) when he goes faster in terms of thrust pace , and so it stops him from being able to finish. He also sometimes says he feels like he hits a wall at a certain point ( again very strange since the colon was used to make the vaginal canal and it’s very very long in nature- think like 7-8inches +). Therefore, has anyone had their Cis male sexual partner or SO complain of this, if so how did you both fix this issue?

In closing, if you read all of that, I would like to thank you in advance for sharing your experiences and thoughts on this matter, as when I had searched the web for answers I had found virtually nothing on the topic of post operative sex issues for mtf, and especially not for mtf post op colon-vaginoplasty patients.