A great many of us have heard the horror stories about getting bottom surgery (MtF) with Dr. Rumer. Sadly, I can confirm they are true from personal experience. I will try to give what information I can in the hopes of helping anyone considering Dr. Rumor
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Neo-vagina:
Healing took a while, It was about 6 moths before I felt comfortable to move around without much limitation. She's functional, I have sensation and I can even get a little wet if given enough foreplay. Depth is a little lack luster but most days when I have to dilate I'm able to push myself to the final dot. Aesthetically there is a lot left to be desired, there was some labia die off, and because of the way she did the surgery there is some pretty bad prolapse. Because of the way everything is exposed I can get rashes, blisters, eventually bleeding along the labias and vaginal opening just from wearing underwear.
Pre-op experience:
She can come off as enthusiastic and genuine showing you her best work from the hundreds of people she has worked on. She leaves most of the details to her staff who can be a little less than forth coming, kind of like they expect you to know what to do both before and after you get surgery. The only pre-op consultation for my expected results and what she would do came about an hour before my surgery after I had changed into the surgical gown and on the bed in the Operating Room lobby.
Post-op experience:
I only saw someone from her staff when they escorted me to and from my room. taking pics both days. They gave me instructions to see her in a week to get the extra plumbing removed. She was not genital about removing the drains the left side has a bigger scar because of it. She was also pretty rough with the dilator. Honestly, the whole time I felt like I was keeping her from other meetings that she had. She was in and out in less that 20 mins, gave me some general BS about how she did all she could and the final results were up to me and how i took care of it. At the 8 week consult I mentioned how things looked prolapsed and the necrosis felt a little excessive. She batted away my concerns, told me to do kegels for the prolapse, and that some die off was expected. At the 16 week mark I mentioned that I might need a revision. She told be she does not do revisions and shut-down the conversation.When I contacted her office about getting my paper work they told me it would take a month+ to gather and have it shipped to me. the paperwork never came. I went to see a specialist and she, while inexperienced with post-op MTFs, was aghast at the care that was given to me. It took a few weeks, but she now has my records from the procedure, but nothing else. No initial contact or follow up notes were given even though I signed for every document they have. I'm currently on the waiting list for a revision the surgeon i originally wanted to fix what Dr. Rumer did to me.
Emotions:
Honestly, I was super dysphoric leading up to the surgery. While I was and still am happy that I had the surgery, I just wish it was with someone more competent or willing to address the issues that arose. Overall I am dysphoric about the results. Yes I can have fun with her, and yes it is better than the alternative for me, but most days I still disassociate from that part of me. I cannot in good conscious recommend anyone to Dr. Rumer. She has been called a butcher by many on the community, and has been sued many times for results and scars she leaves people with.
My hope is to spare others from the same treatment I received. Not many have shared their experience with her so I want is shown somewhere. Yes, I am aware that there are a few exception that have had good results with her, and I am happy for them. However if this is even a 50/50 chance are you willing to risk going to her?
EDIT: a few people have asked about research so here.
Prior looking to have surgery I had the general gist of what it entailed, I had talked with a few people about their experience in passing and it all seemed pretty standard, like no real deviation besides who you went to (by the gods was I wrong). I had been transitioning for 2.5 years and tacitly thought about getting surgery. Yes, I wanted to get surgery someday but i didn't know when...then the dysphoria hit me hard (Word to the wise if you are remotely thinking about surgery, start as soon as you can, give yourself the option for who you want). I was panicked about needing surgery and trying to search for both a surgeon and a hospital that were in-network (they both have to be or you get screwed on the bill). I found a few surgeons and consulted my budget, Rumer was the only one that kept popping up (I hate how this is the system we live in). I tried looking up reviews on google, reddit, facebook (i never went into the groups), susan's place,...everything seemed to give the same "meh" overview so i scheduled something. I told a few friends and they researched her but nothing screamed "don't go to her!" or "these are my results". (my guess is that she threatens sites to take down unwanted info). By the time all my paper work was in place I was mentally committed to getting the surgery, anything short of that would have been suicidal.
Learn from my mistake kids if you want surgery start making plans and appointments, It will give you the option down the road when you want to have it.
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