Title says it all, nothing works. There's sensation down there, things feel okay, but it's like rubbing a thumb. I could orgasm before, but since my operation nothing.
Is this normal at this point? Any other experiences like this? When should I worry / start looking into wether or not they did something wrong during the operation?
Dr Wittenberg says the average time for her patients to orgasm is 8-9 months š¤·āāļø seems weird that you don't have a lot of sensation yet, but nerves are still reconnecting
Thatās reassuring. And yeah, thereās not no sensation. Thereās just absolutely nothing special about the sensation thatās there.
I never touch myself and especially not my clit. I really focus on the moment and what excite me... I just lay on my stomach, rub my pubis on the mattress and squizz my ass/perineal muscles... I still get a really good orgasm. You have to adapt to your new body part, it's very different from before because rubbing is not the only way to get the orgasm. I remember I was so worried for about 4months that I still didn't get any orgasm and I was getting so horny that one day I had enough and it took me 3hours to get my orgasm but I still got it Ahah Now it much more easy, I know how to do it faster, you really have to learn :) I even bought at the time a vibrator because I was so worried, thinking the only way was rubbing my clit... And now I don't even use it š I hope it helped you a bit, you need time and the right time is gonna come, don't worry :)
I already take 3 hours... Really worrying about functionality post op now
Its a pretty intensive surgery so it will take a while. I had a lot of sensation early on now im on like a sensitivity/ numbness rollercoaster at 9 months as the nerves properly sort themselves out. Also theres the whole issue of just not even know how to operate this damned thing, theres no manual!!!!
Give it time :) it took me about a year to be able to do it, 4 months is still really early
It took me longer than four months, more like 8, but now at 12 months it can happen fairly easily.
Have you tried prostate simulation? Not many women just cum from clitoral play. Most orgasms are g spot related plus clitoras. I can basically only get off from prostate orgasms even pre op. But theyre fast and heavenly
Iāve tried a lot of things. Literally nothing works.
Youll get there. Listen to you body. The more you think and get frustrated, the less aroused youll be.
I just passed five months ā I can get reasonably close but no O so far. Iām not impatient. I just ride the wave of the good feelings and trust it will happen. I do have some numbness down there still, and I expect to for a while.
Iām at the same place as you! Iām at 3 months and havenāt been able to. I think itās too soon to worry I canāt even imagine trying to cum everything still hurts :,)
Im , 5 1/2 months post of ,,, I havenāt orgasm yet , yes sometimes im worried and sometimes i like to try to have sex but at the end of the day im sore from dilating 3x a day ....
Thanks guys, they said 3x until 6 months, after that once a day...so 2 wks more, then it will be once a day...š
did your team not say you can reduce frequency? i was told twice a day from three months and once a day from six months. also i've been encouraged to use fingers more for applying gel and excercising pelvic floor, so less achy making.
Different teams have different rules. Thereās no great studies on what works well. I went to Ting and their recommendation is 2-3 times a day for the first year with no variation.
Check my post history, I just came for the first time 3 days ago. I am now 5 months post-op. I thought for real that I was broken but kept trying and boom it happened. I now already orgasmed twice!
The area that feels good is more in the labia and above the clit, the clit itself feels like the tip of the penis and is not that pleasureable to touch directly.
You are not broken and it will work eventually, trust me!
It took me 6 months....3 to heal and 3 more months to figure it out and one night when I used my vibrator and found the right fantasy and BAM it happened!!
Did you try to distract yourself with sexualy arousing thoughts?
I get best orgasms when I don't try to get them, and instead when I massage my vulva and delve into pleasure this massage is giving me. Then, when I reach full relaxation I get my climax, which can last for half an hour if I want.
Did you find your most erogenic spots already?
Sensation is evolving over time. There were times when my sensation was completely gone in one area while present in other, and vice-versa. When the wound is healing the nerves need to recover. The capillary network is growing and nerves reconnect in new ways. Perhaps disconnect too. So for example straight after op my sensation was outside (where penis was no longer there) and sides of my clitoris felt reversed left-right. Then over first two months sensation gone, and then it reappeared in correct arrangement left being left and right being right, depth being depth. Erogenic zones changed too. My current erogeninc zones aren't the same as in the beginning.
I think it's just best to not think too much about it, relax and wait one year, and see how over that time things change. You can still massage the area. Massage will speed up wound healing, capillary regeneration and nerve reconnection. In the meantime try to enjoy the feeling and relax.
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Thanks Iāve been a woman for a quite a while get the hell out of here with that.
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Yeah itās not funny and itās a pretty reductive way of looking at women but yāknow keep at it.
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For all the people upvoting this, I really donāt appreciate being told I wasnāt a woman until I had the surgery. Yāall really support this truscum nonsense?
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Then watch how you speak. This idea of āfemale genitalsā is weird. Trans men donāt have āfemale vaginaā. Trans women donāt have āmale penisesā. Youāre in a trans focused forum. Take the strict assignment of gender and genitals outta here. Instead of being defensive, recognize the hurt you caused and move on.
I struggle to understand what happened here. I didn't mean to offend anyone. Did I?
Sorry! This is not all connected to your comment. I think the original comment this was in response to got deleted.
Oh, my bad, hard to follow those threads. I'm sorry to hear that someone was not being nice.
BTW I hope my comment was helpful š
Totally! Knowing my experience isnāt unique and this is fairly normal is super helpful. Thank you š
I removed and banned them. Rule 5.
I hope no one will get sad or upset, but I'm 6 weeks post op and a week ago I was able to orgasm while masturbating. I have a lot of sensitivity and all, but my clit is still a bit painful from stitches and everything.
I'm trying to hold myself from masturbating more so things can heal and painful clit will be no more. Also I just want to give myself a bit more time to adjust to new body arrangement.
Relax and remember that orgasm comes from within your mind and the rest is just a helpful tool.
Clearly thereās a range of experiences š
I was I think 4-5 mos post op before I came. But I didnāt try too many times. For me what did the trick was a vibrator in my vagina, my wetness or lube on my fingers rubbing on my clit and then the other stuff I liked pre-op (certain pics of guys, my nips stimulated, etc)
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