It's been a month! I'm definitely still healing, but the worst of the swelling has gone down. I don't need ice all the time.
It turns out that the fluid coming out of my vagina when I squeeze has been urine, which means there's a hole in my bladder/urethra. The surgeon says they can fix it though, if it doesn't heal on its own. I haven't noticed much fluid today though so here's hoping I'm on the right track.
I've lost a little bit of depth, but I can still get the dilator in about 13.5 cm, or all but the last dot. Today I started the orange dilator again after stopping it when I got freaked out about the urine (I had used it a couple days in a row almost a week ago). I've been doing 30 minutes with the purple, then 15 with the orange. I've also been trying out a lube applicator to try to get the lube deeper in my vagina. It mostly just oozes out before I get the dilator in, but I'm still experimenting.
Okay, picture time.
Holding the dilator in from above
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