I'm 10 weeks post op vaginoplasty and mostly over dehiscence and granulation issues etc. I'm trying to build up strength again and walking around 2km a day, gradually increasing it but making sure I stop before causing more pain. I have nerve damage in inner thigh and bum area so it's going quite slow.

Anyway I'm looking for exercises that will help relax my internal pelvic area and muscles. I have had some success identifying the muscles at the entrance of the vagina and tensing / relaxing them is becoming easier the more I do it. It is making dilating more comfortable especially the first part of insertion. Dilating twice a day.

The problem I'm having is further inside about half way / 7cm in. I can feel it painfully pressing against my 'g spot' and it's quite difficult / painful to get to full depth.

I make sure I have emptied my bowl and bladder before hand and am using enough lube to coat the dilator soul source violet / just over an inch wide.

I don't think there are any muscles in there to relax and it's ok after a few minutes pushing through the pain, I can then go up to the next size and it slides in easily to about 15cm

Am I doing something wrong ?

Can I do anything different ?

Any other suggestions or is this just how it is ?

Should have added I have been referred to physio but it could be months before I'm seen due to COVID etc