Another week, another pic dump.

I caused some minor wound separation from exercise. You can see it viewer right on the upper side of my vestibule. It's stingy but I've been told it's healing nicely.

I'm still really struggling with coming to terms with my results. Contrary to a lot of people, the more healing I do the worse I think my results look. For instance, the real total lack of definition between my majora and groin that causes it to be a flat plane is really uncanny looking to me.

Ultimately, I think I might have been better off avoiding Srs in the first place. I underestimated my risk tolerance for bad aesthetic results.

Feel free to ama.

I had a similar situation with limited material, my parents mutilating me as a baby and (I think this might be the case for you too OP) limited body fat. People underestimate how limited body fat is another “risk factor” for less-than-ideal aesthetics initially, but I hear it’s fixable with fat transfers to the labia majora and (if necessary) mons pubis. I’m actually researching this myself now and am very serious about doing it.

Speaking only for myself here, the cheerleading in some of the comments probably would have rubbed me the wrong way when I was in a similar place to OP shortly after my SRS. I wanted validation, suggestions for how to improve things and hope that my result could be improved, not to be pushed to just accept things the way they are.

I had my SRS with Suporn about a decade ago. A few years later, after doing a revision, he expressly told me that fat transfers to my labia majora (not a procedure he does) would be necessary to really get the aesthetic result I want. I’ve always tended towards being underweight until I started doing keto, somewhat ironically. My labia majora just aren’t full enough IMO to balance out my inner labia/clitoris area.

I also thought my vulva looked best, despite the blood and stitches, around day 7 and just went downhill from there as the swelling went down and some tissue started healing and scarring asymmetrically. I had multiple revisions, two major and two minor, to get my vulva to where it’s generally acceptable to me if I don’t over-analyze it with a mirror. I totally understand OP what you mean by feeling like there’s a “lack of detail”; I felt this too, and it is somewhat fixable with a revision. Being circumcised with limited starting material seems to be a risk factor for aesthetics initially not being as good as they otherwise could be. But that said, I don’t think it’s a bad result, and most of us can probably benefit from a revision; it’s just really difficult to get it all right in one surgery. But for a revision, don’t just “trust them to do it”; you’ve got to be hyper-specific with your surgeon about what you want changed. I wish I’d pushed Dr. Suporn harder on some of those details I wanted addressed.

OP, my best advice to you is to: 1) consider the result unfinished to whatever extent feels right to you; 2) try to mentally convert any anxieties about more surgery into optimism for making it better; 3) above all else, don’t let any negative feelings you have towards your vulva get in the way of dilation . This did happen to me; every dilation session was a reminder of dissatisfaction with my result, and I let that along with my dilation pain difficulties get in the way of dilating as often as was really needed. Instead assume that one day everything will look the way you want it to; future-you will be really grateful to your younger self for keeping up with dilation.

Sending you safe hugs. <3 feel free to DM me if you like.

I may have asked this in a prior thread, but would you mind sharing your total costs and the time from initial contact to your surgery date?

I think the results look great. Sorry some of the aesthetics are not to your liking. Just fyi, my (cis woman) wife doesn’t have large labia and doesn’t have much definition between the majora and thigh crease… if that helps

holy shit!!!!!! I can't wait to schedule a time with him